.Monday, September 15, 2008 ' 11:56 AM Y
day happened to be shine-d by stars...
are these friends?
well went to hubby's friend's wedding last night.. met most of his friends and their wives there..
slowly as time passes by with most of them attached such visits cut down..
3 years ago when hubby had his own business, many of them came over to congrats him.. few months later when the business wasnt doing well due to location and lack of customers, hubby began to build up debts.. when they knew about it, surprisingly these so called friends couldnt be seen anywhere.. of course i understand that when it comes to money everyone feels sensitive and they are not obliged to lend a helping hand..
but as a true friend, shouldnt you help if you can without any considerations? of course im not trying to blame them for not helping but at least shouldnt they show some concern instead of shunning us like as if we are toxic??
after closing up the business, hubby got a job and thank god its indeed more stable now.. but his friendship with that bunch of people really fluctuate faster then those stocks at wall street.. nowadays we only meet up when there are weddings or maybe CNY.. even til these day people just come up and talk to us because they have to put up a show.. and men are really so different from women.. even there is nothing much for them to chat or talk about at least they still hang around to smoke and drink.. well as for the other wives only brigitta stood by me because she knows and understand what has been happening.. the rest just treat me as transparent.. funny right im so big size yet they cant see me.. brigitta, me and our kids went into the taitais room, they were chatting so we sat at another corner while they were all sitting on the bed.. after about 10mins with our kids playing and running around in the room, 1 of them can even turn around looking at brigitta saying oh i didnt know that you came.. then brigitta who also doesnt really like them said: oh you guys were so engrossed in chatting of course you wouldnt know that we came.. LOL.. thanks for helping brigitta..anyway i also cant be bothered.. and i wouldnt be so thick skinned to go forward and talk to them.. so the entire event i didnt speak to them..
after brigitta's family left my hubby told me my girl's godpa will send us back then i told him we can also go back ourselves, the only thing is whether can we get a cab at that hour and at that place.. (the wedding was held at changi chalet..) my kids were thirsty so i brought them into the chalet to get a drink and i overheard my girl's godpa asking another 2 guys: so how who is going to send 'my family' home.. but i didnt wait for their reply and i walked out of the chalet and told my hubby let's go home ourselves.. he said ok so we told the groom and he walked us out to the gate.. so we walked out to the main road to get a cab.. luckily for us we didnt had to wait long for the cab..
the purpose of this post is not to complain about anyone.. just to share how strong friendships can be when it comes to $$..
♥ME(:
name: Joeann (Jia Jia);
age: 29;
DOB: 5 june;
♥SCREAMS(:
♥TUNING(:
song.